Let’s Listen To Both Sides Of The Argument, Rationally

Ever since Trump elected into office, people were roaring with anger because of his behavior towards different groups and women. Not only did people observe his behavior but they have followed which laws he wants to overturn.

It seems since he is president, society is now involved more than ever in politics. Whether they are starting conversations with each other or are being more informed about the news.

According to “Fortune,” 100 million people voted in the 2018 midterms. Not only are the older generations voting but the younger generations as well.

Most of my friends now love to catch up with the news and see what’s happening worldwide.

For this young and informed passionate woman, she may only be 17 but her mind is spectacular and so is her heart.

Emma Tang, 17, senior in high school has an Instagram, @intersectional.abc, on which, some of the topics she speaks out about are racism, sexism, ableism, gun control, sexual assault, and news stories.

She is fed up with hearing the older generation say, “You young people, what do you know about politics?” or, “Don’t be such a snowflake, stop reading about the current policies and read the history of our country in relation to international politics. Only then would you understand that what Trump is doing is actually good for us.”

When she was only 10 years old, she watched the 2012 debates and paid close attention to the election. From then, she began reading about policies and researched opposing views on controversial topics.

Before she wanted to become involved in politics, her aspirations changed over the years from wanting to be an astronaut, an Egyptologist, and a forensic scientist. Now, her goal is to become a senator and to make a change in this world.

Like many people, she discovers the news on social media such as Facebook, Instagram, Twitter and enjoys reading CNN as well. She loves learning about history and would always listen to history-related podcasts.

A couple of books she reads are, “How to Make White People Laugh” by Negin Farsad, “Between Shades of Gray,” “Salt to the Sea,” and “Out of the Easy,” all by Ruta Septys.

Reading up about the news and politics can create such a heated debate, especially between the younger generation and the older generation. There are quite a large number of people out there who may not want to understand politics because, for them, they ask, “Why should I read up on the news? I’d rather stick my nose out of it.” Or, “These policies such as anti-LGBTQ+ issues and immigration does not even affect me.”

Therefore, they may not want to care but the younger generation has a voice and it’s important to at least have an opinion about these issues.

Also posted on https://www.theodysseyonline.com/listen-both-sides-of-argument

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4 Podcasts to Stimulate Your Mind

Recently, I’ve been waking up at 5:30 a.m. so I could listen to podcasts before classes. I never liked podcasts before because I never had the time but I gave it a chance anyways. I have found some fascinating podcasts that speak about topics such as politics, psychology, LGBTQ+ issues and more. Listening to more serious topics sparked my interest to hear what others had to say. Being knowledgeable about topics such as these can create an interesting debate with families, friends and even strangers. If you’re not a fan of reading, then perhaps listening to a discussion before classes or during breakfast is a nice way to catch up with the news quickly.

Women in the white house

  1. Women Belong in the White House

I agree wholeheartedly but only if the candidate is qualified. When people read the title, they might think, “Oh, here we go again. Another feminist podcast trying to be equal.” Actually, it’s an empowering podcast to hear women such as Ohio Democrat Betsy Rader, running for office speak about their experience about why they are running for office and why women are struggling to survive in the political world compared to men in the first place.

This has been the only podcast so far that I truly love and could listen to back-to-back. In politics, it does cost a lot to run for office. It is also hard for the candidates to come up with the money themselves but they do accept donors. In one of the episodes, they said men are known to be in managerial positions, with one phone call, they could dial a friend and their friend would come up with $50,000 on the spot. While women, who are known to have lower positions in power or have friends who are mothers, come up with $100 and women would have to call even more people to raise thousands of dollars.

Also, women are knowledgeable as well. We do have brains for a reason and we are not just eye candy. We like to absorb information and want to help make this world a better and a safer place.

Jon Van Ness

  1. Getting Curious with Jonathan Van Ness

Queer Eye, Jonathan Van Ness, has a bubbly personality, a great beard and a heart of gold. With this podcast, he truly is a curious soul because he asks questions such as, what it’s like being a women in NASCAR with Julia Landauer and he even asks Tan France, a fashion expert and fellow Queer Eye, about when he knew he wanted to marry a man and about coming out to his religious family.

One of the things Tan said was that it was easier to come out to a family if you’re white as opposed to another race such as Asian. I believed that to be true. In my experience, it’s harder for Asians to accept the LGBTQ+ community because they are either religious and would rather not speak about or even look at a same-sex couple because it’s not what they were taught is right or they think it’s absurd. I am an Asian American after all so I know what this is like. It’s a very big deal and I often wonder, would I have to move out of my parents’ home in order to be truly happy and myself?

The show Queer Eye helped Tan’s family understood what he does as a fashion expert, how it has helped change peoples’ lives and is still being himself. The only difference is that he is married to a man. His family now uses his husbands’ name when they originally didn’t want to know anything about his love life. It’s one of my favorite episodes.

The Daily

  1. The Daily

If you would like to hear about news such as the disappearance of a Saudi Journalist, Louis C.K coming back to comedy after being accused of sexual misconduct, and news about Trump or about world news, then this is the place for you.

I just finished the episode about letting Louis C.K. back in the comedy world. Noam Dworman, the owner of the Comedy Cellar, lets Louis C.K. take the stage. One of the sub-topics they’ve discussed was, how long is it okay to ban someone who has done a horrible action until they can have their career back?

There is no definite answer because there are two sides you can look at. What happens if he’s back on stage where he can travel or find more women to assault? Would women have to see how they are dressed and keep caution? But also, would it be right to ban a man from doing something that has brought his fans joy?

Taylor Nolan

  1. Let’s Talk About It

Taylor Nolan was from the bachelor and there was something about her that I adored. If you take a peek at her podcast, she speaks on topics such as self-compassion, infertility & sexual assault and understanding those that are misunderstood.

She is not afraid to voice her opinion on such topics and that is what I love about her range of topics. One of her episodes that resonated with me was, “Is Self-Compassion Selfish?” What I’ve understood from this episode was, in order to fully heal, we must understand what is causing us pain.

When I heard this, I could not agree more. Everyone has dealt with suffering in different ways but as humans, we tend to bottle it up because it’s easier and we think we can deal with it ourselves. It’s better to express your emotions into writing so you can pinpoint what areas of your life you should improve on. It’s definitely not selfish to stop every now and then to ask yourself how you are doing. If you don’t, what if you feel like you can’t take life anymore and are about to explode? It’s better to check in with yourself than wait for others to ask. In this episode, she speaks with Dr. Kristin Neff, a self-compassion researcher and it’s definitely worth a listen.

Left Photo Credit: Arbela Capas

Cover Photo Credit: Arbela Capas

Right Photo Credit: Aaron Richards

 

“Feelings for Her”-Smartphone Film Festival on campus 2018

I wrote this while my friend produced/directed it. The reason why I wrote this was because society wanted me to feel ashamed for being a bisexual human being. That’s just it, I’m a human being with feelings and it’s not something that’s easily controlled. Also, on campus there was a smartphone film festival. It was the first one they’ve ever done and there were nine videos. This film won first place. Might write more in-depth next time but for now, enjoy.

When Love Turns Toxic, It’s Time To Leave

Sure, all relationships have problems, but enough is enough.

Everyone deserves a loving and a passionate relationship. Even if it did appear to be so in the beginning. But the relationship progresses into not trusting each other, blasting your problems online and professing love to the other person online when it’s really the partner doing it for them.

Relationships can be a sticky situation but what baffles me is, why are people willing to stay even if it isn’t good for them?

Those couples can say they love each other all they want but it’s really not good for them, self-esteem wise.

I know a couple who are head over heels in love with each other. At first, I envied their love because of the way they looked at each other. They would do anything for the other. Except, the female had a past of other lovers and can be naive at times. That’s why the guy is obsessed with knowing her every move, who she talks to, whatever she does or wherever she goes, he would like to know.

They would go into each other’s social media accounts and

sometimes deletes each others’ messages and friends for no reason.

He is protective of her, but in the process, he calls her names and stuff all because her mind is controlled by her mother. She won’t do anything that would disobey her mother.

They are both tired of it, but if she would stand up to her mother or try to see him on the weekends too instead of just weekdays, then he said they would have a healthier relationship.

He swears he loves her and that’s why he can’t ever leave her and says he’s invested too much to leave now. If she ticks him off, he’ll probably threaten her, but if she’s good and obeys then she won’t.

Their love may be bound, but I guess I won’t understand a toxic relationship.

The one that swears they love each other but are really destroying another soul by all of the problems. Either they work it out themselves but sometimes they announce it on social media. So, it might seem like the female is the problem while the male looks like the victim when it’s only one side of the story.

 

They are the type to text each other, for what feels like every minute of the day. Even if you’re hanging out with one of them, they’re too busy texting the other to notice what you’re wearing.

I guess that’s what happens when people swear they are good but won’t tell people the other side of the story.

If you’re longing to be in a relationship, be in a healthy one. Sure, all relationships have problems, but enough is enough. Love yourself enough to be able to love and trust someone completely.

Also found on https://www.theodysseyonline.com/get-out-toxic-relationship

Hayley Kiyoko’s Concert Was More Than Just A Concert, It Allowed Me To Announce My Sexuality

I went to a Hayley Kiyoko concert on June 5th, 2018, which is different for me because I usually dislike concerts. I dislike the fact I had to be pushed up against people because we were in the standing area.

I also don’t go to concerts unless I absolutely loved the artist and I love Hayley Kiyoko and her music. Her songs have normalized a girl having a crush or loving a girl with no shame. I still am learning to not feel ashamed. Also, the difficulty is especially, when I keep finding myself attracted to heterosexual females.

I went with my mom, aunt and my cousin. The reason I wanted to go with them is to let them see that it’s OK to like the same sex. It’s OK to wear pride clothing and it’s OK to have a 20gayteen flag.

I felt it was the only place I could sing along to her songs without any judgment. For me, it was more than a concert.

It was an announcement about my sexuality in reality and not just on the internet.

During one of her songs, Girls Like Girls, I felt my voice starting to shake and my eyes started to water while I sang along to the words. I felt like I was hugging someone mentally and them saying,”It’s OK.” My friends supports me but I wish my parents felt the same.

I guess that was the reason I wanted my mother to go to the concert as well. She kept saying, “Oh, gay people can spread AIDS,” and excuses such as that but I didn’t know how to respond. I felt like, if I showed her the support of the LGBTQ+ community, how passionate I felt about the issues and Hayley singing and having a lecture about finding love and liking girls, I guess I hoped she’d change her mind. Of course she didn’t.

But, I guess I hoped.

Hayley did say, “Even if you think you don’t deserve happiness, you do.”

I’ve always felt maybe, the world is punishing me and I might never date anyone or nobody would even like me. But, I do have to believe that I deserve to be happy. Also, like in the movie Love, Simon, “Everyone deserves a great love story.”

Also published on the Odyssey: https://www.theodysseyonline.com/hayley-kiyoko-concertMEE

Hannah Baker Wasn’t Seeking Attention

“Hey, It’s Hannah. Hannah Baker.” Those were the first words on the tape she made before she ended her life. They explained what happened to her and what led to her death.

I finally finished season 1 of Netflix’s adaption of 13 Reasons Why. It took me a year to get the courage to watch the entire season. I felt the emotions of what Hannah went through. It might’ve been similar situations, but not exactly the same.

The first time I heard about 13 Reasons Why I was excited to watch it because I didn’t know what the show was about and it seemed interesting. I never read the book.

When I did watch it, it was so powerful, I had to turn it off and regroup my emotions. I was crying during each episode.

In high school, I felt like everyone was staring at me, being cruel and I was being bullied by, what seemed like, everyone in my grade. Although it wasn’t exactly everyone, it felt like it.

It started in middle school but worked it’s way up until my high school graduation. I felt powerless. I didn’t have friends to help defend me nor did I have the courage to defend myself and when I did, people were just being harder on me. I felt like I couldn’t do anything about it so I gave up.

No one would believe me when I tried to tell others the truth. Not even one of the counselors I told in high school, he said I needed proof so I became obsessed with getting proof. I had the video but when I showed it to an a friend whom I didn’t see much but crossed paths a couple of times, she said the girl in the video could’ve been looking at something else for a really long time. So then I gave up.

Hannah Baker’s life ended because of a reputation she couldn’t control.

When guys hit on you but then try to call you a “slut” or “whore” because of a photo that was taken the wrong way. It wasn’t just the photo, it was when a guy also claimed to hit a home run with a girl. It started with just a guy but then it became multiple guys who thought they could do the same because of rumors they heard about her. From then on, guys in her class or she knew would look at her like a sexual object.

When she told someone about it, no one believed her. It felt like her life was falling apart and problems kept coming her way.

It was more than a photo or a reputation.

It was how she was being treated by guys, people, her “friends” who no longer wanted to be associated with her. She had secrets she couldn’t tell because she was either too ashamed or she didn’t want to be a burden. She seemed like the type to keep it to herself because she thought she could handle it. She wanted to scream and she cried a lot because she was hurt. She lost her sense of self.

She needed help.

She needed a soul to know they cared or would help her but when she didn’t find one, she made tapes and drew a map of the names that contributed to ending her life. Hannah could’ve opened more about issues she was dealing with but she chose not to. She’s an imperfect person. She could’ve told a counselor the whole story but she decided not to. Instead, she wanted to end her suffering.

It’s hard to get someone who’s on the brink of harming themselves to open up, but it doesn’t hurt to try and ask them how they are doing once in a while.

Maybe, check to see how they are acting– if they’re lonely or if they don’t want to get out of bed or would rather sleep for the rest of their life because of what life throws at them. Check to see if there are any signs like that and if you can’t get them to open up, maybe seek advice from a counselor or a therapist to see what more they could do.

This show is a really hard show to watch but it sparks conversation. I don’t need to constantly hear, “Oh, I’m against bullying and would try to help.” I would rather you do the action you said you would. When I read comments saying, “Oh, she should’ve sucked it up. I did.” No, she didn’t need to “suck it up.”

People shouldn’t be so cruel in the first place. Just because it seems we’ve normalized bullying doesn’t mean it’s ok.

It doesn’t mean it’s ok because people become so depressed that they’ve lost all hope so they end their life because they don’t want to tell anybody. They don’t want to tell people because they are afraid to be a burden or think people will tell them to move on. Or, they don’t want to talk about anything.

If you think someone you know will try to harm themselves or know they are depressed. Talk to them and lend a hand because you never know when they will need it. Call the National Suicide Prevention line at 1-800-273-8255 if you or someone you know need help.

Also on https://www.theodysseyonline.com/who-is-hannah-baker, if you would like to see more of my articles.

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Downtown Cleveland

There is much to discover about Cleveland. Whether you’re looking for restaurants, a place to study or to take pictures, Downtown Cleveland is a great place to visit. What does Cleveland mean to me?

Although I’m from Cleveland, I haven’t explored many places because I moved when I was 4. When I do come to Cleveland, these two places are where I visit the most. In the first picture, Cleveland means places to go for enjoyment. Near Edgewater, I enjoy visiting at night to see the lights and the buildings, and of course, the beach. It’s where I can listen to music through my headphones while seeing the sunrise and the sunset.

In the second picture, I spent my childhood at Tower City, mainly because my mom used to work there. At a young age, I remembered I would always say hello to every customer who walked in when she was working because I was bored and didn’t have anyone to speak with. Ever since I was a kid, I would always go to this particular fountain and have  a coin in hand so I could make a wish and toss it in.

 

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