A Coming Out Song Released On Tiktok
Recently, I’ve listened to a song that reminded me of how I felt before I came out. The emotions of being scared, hoping to find the love of my life, and was worried for a moment about what people thought. I decided not to care what anyone else thinks because it’s not their truth, it’s mine. This is a beautiful song I heard on Tiktok. At first, I thought it was for a different song but when I heard more of the clip, I fell in love with it.
The song is called, “If I Was Gay” by Andreas Wijk. His voice and the piano have a beautiful balance throughout the song. I wish I had this song to comfort me years ago. “If I was gay would I be what they say, just a stereotype?”I felt like changing my appearance so other girls would know I was interested in them. I wanted to look more masculine but then I realized, I like dressing up and wearing makeup and at the same time, I enjoy wearing a hoodie, pants, and a backwards hat. It seems like stereotypes were invented to try to understand people and label them. Except, it might not apply to everyone. I have learned to dress however I feel. Whether it’s a blouse and trousers one day and/or sweatpants the next.
“If I was gay how do I get to heaven, when there’s no church in the wild.” This reminds me of when someone I knew said, “God won’t allow LGBTQ+ people in his kingdom cause it’s considered a sin.” This got me heated. I’m just like everyone else. I want to fall in love with someone. So many people would rather see LGBTQ+ individuals be killed then be happy. It’s like we’re a threat but we’re not. We’re also not a sin, just human beings made in His image. We don’t actively try to kill people just cause we don’t like them. The people who hate on us are the reason why a lot of people hide. I no longer feel the need to hide. I’m just thriving in life. I mind my own business, go to work, do what I enjoy, and move on with my day. Granted, I’m not dating anyone at the moment so I’m not worried about my love life. Whenever it happens, it’ll happen.
“If love is the same, why is this not the same thing?” I do get jealous of when heterosexual relationships receive comments such as, “Oh, you’re such a beautiful couple! What are your plans for the future?” While I hear same sex couples receive comments like, “Don’t worry about the future, it won’t work out anyways.” When asking why they think it won’t work, they simply say, “Cause you’re both of the same gender.” The homophobic comments enrage me yet people think it’s okay to say. I would think you’d want to protect someone from dating a psychopath or a toxic partner, instead, it’s all about blocking the love of same sex couples. I wish I could scream that lyric at the top of my lungs. It’s just a relationship, like everyone else in the world! Everyone should be able to express how they feel about someone without fear.
“I’ve never kissed a boy, I’ve been trying to fit in. Picturing his face and I lose a piece of me.” I don’t understand why people resort to thoughts such as, “You’ve probably never kissed the opposite gender so you don’t know if you like it or not.” Actually, I have and I’m still not a fan. I remembered being so scared of asking girls out because I didn’t know how to ask them out. I didn’t even know who to turn to. Youtube seemed like my only option. I’d rather just ask in person with confidence and to not care. Easier said than done. With time, it got easier.
This song is for anyone that feels alone, lonely, scared, and confused on how they feel. Sexuality is fluid, it will be okay. I felt so liberated when I finally came out. Other people’s opinions are not a reflection of me, but of themselves. I hope one day, everyone can feel safe and just love whoever they’re with, without fear.