Dear 2020,
You have taught me many lessons. One that I didn’t think I could face. I’ve always tried to be kind. Always took opportunities that were given. Granted, you should always accept them. If you want to. By being too kind, I never set boundaries for myself, whether it was professionally or personally. I allowed people to walk over me. Speak to me however they pleased. I had to deal with many toxic individuals but thought I should stay quiet. But then I’m thinking, “Why should I be quiet?” No. They clearly don’t respect me. I need to speak up. So I did. People will never take responsibilities for their own actions. Even when they are called out and are in the wrong. You can’t force someone to see their own actions. You can just hope they learn from them. I certainly have. I left and cut off people that were not good for me. People think they know what’s best for me but no one’s ever asked me what I wanted. I was taught to set boundaries and stand up for myself. I will not let anyone tell me how to think. They are not me. I have a brain and I know how to use it.
Another lesson I was taught is love. Whether it is romantically or platonically. I know what a healthy relationship looks like and I will not settle for anything less. Many people have told me that it’s okay to wear your heart on your sleeve. So I did. I wore it on my sleeve and let people see me in my most vulnerable state. I am stronger because of it. We all deserve love, no matter your sexuality. We deserve someone who will love us, fight for us, makes us incredibly happy, one you can see a future with and someone who you’re attracted to. There’s nothing better than having someone you have a connection with that’s so strong. This year has made it clear on who I like, what I like, and to never stop fighting. There’s one person I have to thank for that.
Career wise, I’m still in between. Since I let people walk over me, I went into a slump. I had a vision of what I wanted but that was depleted the minute I let myself think I wasn’t good enough. Towards the end of the year, I finally found the motivation again. I have lots of goals and things I want to accomplish in 2021. Here’s hoping I can achieve them.
Being in the middle of a pandemic has taught me to slow down and to take care of myself. You can’t accomplish everything in one day. You should take it one day at a time.
Someone asked me what I wanted for Christmas. What I want for Christmas, you cannot buy. You can buy everything but you cannot buy love, relationships, friendships, acceptance, peace, happiness, self-love and a motivating mindset.
I have met so many great people along the way. I am forever grateful to each and every one of them. They have taught me acceptance, love, responsibility, self-care, self-love and confidence. I believe you meet people for a reason. They’re either a lesson or a blessing. Many of them have been both.
It’s okay to love myself and who I am. I will never apologize for that. People are more than their sexuality. If the only thing you can see is someone’s sexuality and judge them for that then I’m sorry you’ll never get to know the great person they truly are. I believe everyone can succeed in life. All you need is to stride with confidence.